Here is Lindsay Thul’s next wedding planning tip! See her above with one of her brides at Hotel Blackhawk. If you missed the first, please click here!
…Speaking of control freak
It’s okay (and necessary) to be very organized with your initial planning. BUT the closer you get to the big day, the less stressed you should be- not the other way around. Most venues require a final count and final detailing meeting a week or so out, but you should feel like most of the preparation is finished when you send out your invitations (about 6 weeks prior to the event date). Once those go out, all you’ll need to do is track the RSVP’s and get the meal counts, which should be the easiest part of the process.
NEWS FLASH: THERE WILL BE ISSUES! No wedding will ever go off flawlessly. Someone won’t like their food. Someone will miss a flight. Someone will make a rude comment about something not being right. Someone in the group will be negative. One of your vendors may forget something or may be running late. Just let it go and prepare yourself ahead of time to be okay with the fact that something unexpected will come up. It will be fine.
When selecting your bridal party, try to stay away from the negative people (some who you may be related to!). Try not to micromanage everything and require specific nail colors, hair-do’s, etc. because that’s what’s going to drive your bridal party crazy and make them more apt to bring down the vibe on your big day. All you need to do is show up, marry the love of your life, and ENJOY yourself.
I hate to say it, but there always seems to be that one person who hates the fact that you’re having this amazing wedding and they’re single. Recognize who these people might be and prepare yourself ahead of time. Know to walk away, stay calm, make a joke, and keep it movin’.
Don’t spend the happiest day of your life and the weeks leading up to it stressing about the little details. As long as you have the major things booked with your vendors, and a plan for who/when will execute the day-of details, just relax and take it all in. (And pass this tip along to your parents, too). It will all be okay- I promise. Wooosaaa.
Check back tomorrow for Part 3!
Faith, Hope & Love,